“I used to get a text saying that they will be waiting to get me at school but they got bored when I ignored them.”
People get picked on for lots of reasons. Being bullied can make you dread going to school, and can also make you feel depressed, lonely and even suicidal.
You might feel that there is no way out, but there are lots of ways to get help. If people are making nasty remarks about you then it may be because they are jealous.
Perhaps you’re better looking than they are, you work harder, or perhaps the teachers like you better.
The bullies will have worked out what makes you upset. Don’t try to hide it or ignore it – tell a friend, tell an adult in school you trust and tell your parents. It won’t stop unless you do. One way of dealing with remarks is simply ignore them. This will show them that it isn’t having the effect of upsetting you in the way they think.
Cyberbullying is where bullying happens either online or by a mobile phone. It will help if you save your text messages or e-mails and show an adult you trust who can help you.
Remember! – You have the right to live without being picked on.
To learn more about bullying and to find out how to get the help and support you need click here to visit the Anti Bullying pages.
Look out for
Signs someone is being bullied:
- They become unhappy or withdrawn
- They start missing school
- They’ve got physical injuries they don’t want to talk about or try to hide
- They pretend to be ill
Are you being bullied?
- It probably won’t stop until you tell an adult you trust like a teacher, nurse or parent/carer
- Act confidently to send out the message that you’re not afraid
- Stay with others – you’re more likely to be picked on if you’re on your own
- Keep a diary and keep all text messages as evidence of what happens. If you need to you can use it later
- For more information check out – Anti Bullying – A Young Person’s Guide
- Is your friend being bullied?
- Take their worries seriously
- Stick up for them
- They might want you to be with them for support when they tell their parents, carers or teacher
- Name calling
- Making things up to get you into trouble
- Hitting, pinching, biting, pushing and shoving
- Taking things away from you
- Damaging your belongings
- Stealing your money
- Taking your friends away from you
- Posting insulting messages on the Internet or by Instant Messenger (IM)
- Spreading rumours/gossip
- Threats and intimidation
- Making silent or abusive phone calls
- Sending you offensive phone texts
- Bullies can also frighten you so that you don’t want to go to school, so that you pretend to be ill to avoid them
- Withdrawn – Not wanting to see or speak to people
- Happy-slapping – When someone gets attacked and its filmed on a mobile
- Suicidal – When you feel that you want to kill yourself
Contacts and Links
- Your parent/carer
- www.kidscape.org.uk (bullying)
- www.bbclic.com (bullying)
- www.anti-bullyingalliance.org.uk (bullying)
- www.nspcc.org.uk (help for young people)
- www.samaritans.org 08457 90 90 90 (help for young people)
- www.childline.org.uk 0800 1111 (help for young people)
- www.kidshealth.org/teen (general health)
- www.need2know.co.uk/health (general health)
- www.nhs.uk/livewell/ (general health)
- www.achance2talk.com (general health)
- www.teenlifecheck.co.uk (a tool to see how you are getting on in life)